I'm not sure what bfme is but it sounds like you might have a connection problem. What kind of connection do you have DSL, Cable, or dial-up?
also you might try running a spyware removal program like webroot or spybot. Also you might need to run a windows defrag. Or its your buddys connection!
also you might try running a spyware removal program like webroot or spybot. Also you might need to run a windows defrag. Or its your buddys connection!